How Much Pressure Should You Use During a Massage?

The right pressure is a conversation. Sarah’s course uses clear questions so you do not have to guess what your partner means by “good.”

Ask what it feels like.

Start with: “Does this feel light, medium, or firm?”

Then ask: “Would you like less, more, or the same?” These are the pressure questions used in the Head, Neck & Shoulders lesson.

Warm before adding pressure.

Begin with broad, gentle contact. Introduce more focused work gradually and return to soothing palm movements between focused areas. Firm pressure is optional, rather than a target every massage should reach.

Check again when something changes.

Recheck when you change your tool, position or body area. Pressure that felt comfortable on the back may feel too strong on a leg. Repeated work can also make an area more sensitive, so lighten or move on.

Protect both people.

Use a wide stance, soft knees and a neutral back. Move with your hands rather than forcing pressure through your wrists. If the giver is strained or holding their breath, pause and reset.

Know when to stop.

The course safety lesson says to avoid injured, inflamed, numb, infected, bruised or painful areas. Never press directly on the spine, joints, varicose veins or open wounds. Stop for pain, dizziness, numbness, tingling, shortness of breath or discomfort.

From the course: Adapted from the written lesson refreshers in Sarah’s Couples Massage Masterclass: Head, Neck & Shoulders Massage; More Than Thumbs: Massage Techniques; Important Safety, Medical & Copyright Disclaimer.

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